Better Than Networking: How to Assemble Your Personal Board of Directors
An old proverb says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go with others.” The community you surround yourself with can fuel your growth as a person and a professional, as well as your growth in your relationship with God. Likewise, if given permission, they can hold you back from becoming your best, stunt your growth as a leader, or lull you into complacency in your spiritual life. Gathering an intentional circle of trusted voices around us is an invaluable practice for leaders, and it isn’t as hard as you might think.
Just like a company or nonprofit has a board of diverse, experienced individuals to guide the organization, you can create your own version by assembling a network of advisors who can provide guidance, advice, encouragement, and honest feedback.
So, how do you go about building your personal board of directors? The process looks different for everyone, and no two boards will look the same. Start by taking time to consider your goals and needs. And as your goals and needs change over time, or as you face new transitions or opportunities, you may need to adjust who is on your board. Next, remember that one of the most important qualifications is that each member knows you, understands your values, and is invested in your success. Here’s a simple framework for the roles you might invite your board members to play:
The Coach – This person can help you develop new perspectives as you continue your growth journey.
The Connector – This person has a lot of relationships and can help connect you to people, opportunities, and resources.
The Cheerleader – This person loves to encourage and will cheer you on.
The Challenger – This person will clearly and boldly call you to be your best by telling you the truth and asking good, hard questions.
While official board meetings are certainly not needed, carving out intentional time to connect with your board members is important. The frequency with which you meet with each person will differ based on your relationship and your needs. For example, you may choose to connect with your Coach monthly and your Connector only once or twice a year. Find the balance between flexibility and intentionality that works best for you and for each relationship represented on your board.
Personally, my board has transformed to reflect the changing seasons of my life. As a young entrepreneur building a nonprofit while juggling a baby, my board consisted of professional expertise as well as incredible working mothers who helped me manage my expectations concerning the juggle of work and parenting. Other seasons marked by deep personal and spiritual growth caused my board to lean toward different areas of spiritual maturity and practices. Today, my board consists of a therapist/spiritual director, CEOs, and a few other c- suite executives, seasoned ministry leaders, executive coaches, and truth-telling friends who are experts in a variety of fields.
My friend Becca has been on my personal board since fifth grade. We met because I was friends with her son. Over Whataburger shakes and Sonic drinks, she mentored me through dating relationships and encouraged me through academic struggles. Over lattes and cheesecake, she built my resolve during seasons of risks and leaps of faith. Through phone calls and text messages we’ve talked parenting, leadership, and spiritual disciplines. We’ve unpacked tricky leadership challenges and career changes. She’s unofficially become the chairwoman of my board, and I couldn’t be more thankful.
Proverbs 11:14 (MSG) says, “Without good direction, people lose their way; the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances.”
So many times, when I’ve found myself at a crossroads personally or professionally, I’ve turned to the members of my board. I’ve never regretted inviting their direction and advice. Everyone can benefit from building a personal board of directors, from students to CEOs. Leaning into wise counsel can provide invaluable insight to unlock your potential.
Don’t walk your road alone. It’s time to start building your board.
Meredith King is a nonprofit and leadership strategist, Bible teacher, and author whose passion is catalyzing Kingdom-builders for greater impact. She is the founder and vision ambassador of True to Life Ministries, as well as a strategic advisor for Integrus Leadership.
Meredith and her family live in Texas, where she joyfully survives on coffee and queso. Learn more and connect at
meredithkingblog.com.